Is your baby banging their head?
All parents of toddlers have witnessed the full body flailing of their enraged child. It is something to behold. Kids definitely don’t hold back when they’re angry or upset! This can be disconcerting to the parent, but even more disconcerting is when your toddler repeatedly bangs her head against the wall or the sides of her cot or the floor for apparently no reason at all.
According to parents.com, as many as 20 percent of babies and toddlers between the ages of 6 months and 24 months intentionally bang their heads. For some, this can last a few weeks and for others up to a few years, usually settling down by the age of three or four.
Why do they do it?
Comfort. You know how rocking in a rocking chair or falling asleep on a boat can be soothing? The back and forth rhythm can be calming and help you relax. Head banging has the same effect for some babies when they discover that the repeated motion helps them feel at ease. Anger or frustration Young children do not have the verbal skills they need to express the storm of emotions they go through, so banging can help them vent these feeling.
Some babies and toddler bang their heads as a way to self-soothe when they have teething pain or earaches. Attention. Older toddlers who realize that you find the head banging upsetting might do it to get your attention. The more you try to stop them, the more they will see it as something that can get a rise out of you.
In very rare cases, repeated head banging can be a sign of an underlying issue such as autism. If you notice other behavioral or developmental issues with your child, its always a good idea to get him checked out, especially if the head banging continue past the age of four.
So what do I do?
The first step is to make sure your child is safe and protect her from hurting herself. Children that head bang will generally not cause themselves harm; they will only bang hard enough to comfort themselves, not to cause actual pain or injury to themselves. Resist the urge to line the side of the bed or cot with pillows, as this is a suffocation risk. Remember that your child will not bang hard enough to cause himself pain. Give her some extra attention when shes not banging. This is always helpful for most attention-grabbing behaviors from kids. A few extra minutes playing Lego or sitting down to read books can go a long way to giving your child what she needs. Try not to get too upset or make too much of a fuss when shes actually banging, because this will set up a negative reinforcement situation. Just make sure shes safe and try to distract her if possible. If not, let the banging session run its course and carry on with your day.
Offer your child other solutions for soothing himself, such as cuddling and playing some calm music, giving him a warm bath, singing a song or telling a story.
Once your child develops the ability to speak and express himself more, he will most likely stop the head banging. Remember: we all have our ways of expressing anger, frustration and sadness. Head banging might seem like an alarming way to do it, but most of the time its perfectly safe and wont cause any long term damage or trauma.